The space we share
- Janet Tilstra
- Oct 22
- 2 min read
I navigate the rented Uhaul to an underpass, waiting for the rain to pass; tension clogging the space between us.
She, spouting dismal worst-case predictions of catastrophe for the climate, the country, the world, her life.
Me- champion of “fight fair” and don’t say “always or never” since her rocking horse days.
Feeling the preheat of parental course correction.
Her - Is it selfish to bring a child into this world?
Me – having a child is personal, not political
Her – but the rising horror…eco apocalypse, exhaustion, no Planet B
The social media algorithmic thermostat, turning up the temperature.
Paralyzed progeny, performative phraseology, headstrong hyperbole, a shutdown of solutions; whirling worry.
This page blank – no solutions
Her, you don’t understand, and it’s worse for us…
Lockdown drills
Run, Hide, Fight
And the economic collapse/s
And the pandemic pause
And college debt and financial fragility
Stability slipping
through our fingers
Me, in defense of…
Latch key kids
And divorce is doubling
And sports for girls?
And AIDS and dot-com bubbles
and busts
And the wall coming down but death at Tiananmen square
You’re a FemiNazi
And conjugal partners or civil unions or gay marriage?
Explaining 911, first grade style
Smoldering smog and severed skyscrapers
Continuously juggling the ideal and the reality
Designing and redesigning a moral path
With space for questions and course correction
Our generational magnetic poles push apart
Her pain. Her disillusion.
Her life compass cracked and spinning.
My urge to seed resolve, harness hope, foster future
How to turn the tension
in US…
Navigating nuance
Currents of creativity and collaboration
In the land of what if and why not?
Unveiled understandings
And White guilt
Resisting religious rhetoric to deify dictators and rewind rights
Wait, are we in the Bad Place?
This landscape burning through hope
The pelting downpour has shifted to splatter
Opalescent prisms emerge
Ghostly apparitions
we need
Even (and especially) when the world is bleak.



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